It Never Changes

Jamie sent me these yesterday.

They were snapped at her wedding reception, which took place at a lodge on a mountaintop in Oregon on the first day of June. Initially I looked at the pictures and thought “My head looks huge and shiny, probably cuz my shirt’s so tiny.” (Yeah, I think in rhymes, what up?) But someday, likely far sooner than I can even fathom now, I’ll look at them and think “Wow, I had hair! And teeth! And no gut! And oh my goodness that baby blue suit! God I loved that suit! I got it on that rainy day shopping adventure in London with Bevan and Chris! And there’s Jeremy and Saph! Goodness it’s been forever! I really should give them a call!”

I also appreciate how well the photos capture Bevan, like really capture him, even though they only show part of his face. When he and I are on a dance floor together, any dance floor, he gets this full-body smile and I can tell, even without seeing it, that he’s wearing it in those pictures, that smile he reserves just for me.

I guess what I’m trying to say is this:

“The best thing about a picture is that it never changes, even when the people in it do.”
Andy Warhol

Also, I don’t have a butt. I’m saying that, too.

10 Things I Loved About Portland

In order of no order.

  • Jamie’s wedding

  • garden brunch with Kari’s parents at Kari’s childhood home

  • quality time with Saph and Jeremy

  • Gay Running Club

  • Powell’s Books

  • the bronze tree in the Beverly Cleary Children’s Library

  • Scandals

  • the real tree across the street from our hotel

  • the fact that there’s a street named after Harvey Milk

  • Petunia's Pies & Pastries

Don’t Settle Down

A friend of mine is getting hitched on a mountain in Oregon this weekend and yesterday her mom emailed me a request for “one or two pearls of wisdom you might have for the newly weds”. Because I possess exactly zero wisdom, I asked Bevan for relationship advice that I could share. Laughing, he responded, “Don’t settle down with someone thirty years older than you.”

Sick burn, B.

Only Not Play It Safe

Below is an edited excerpt from James Baldwin's Giovanni's Room which Grace read aloud at Patrick and Ross' wedding yesterday.

"Love him...love him and let him love you. Do you think anything else under heaven really matters? You can give each other something which will make both of you better—forever—if you will not be ashamed, if you will only not play it safe."